As you may have noticed, I’ve been dealing with some big issues in some areas of belief I’ve held for years. This post is no exception, but I hesitate to write it. Why? Well…because it’s a hot topic. And I want to do it justice; I don’t want it be judging. I’ve done enough of that, and I don’t want to continue. I also want to make sure what I’ve newly come too, is indeed in line with the Bible, His Word.
I guess it’s been no great secret, if you’ve been a friend of mine for long, that I’ve held some pretty strong stands on this topic, and had NO tact in talking about them. Yes…I judged. I thought I was in the right…
37 “Do not judge, and you will not be judged; and do not condemn, and you will not be condemned; pardon, and you will be pardoned.
It seems I’d forgotten that verse, don’t you think?
“Do not judge so that you will not be judged. 2 For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you. 3 Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?4 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold, the log is in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.
For some reason…I thought it was my job, as a believer to call out others sins. I really don’t know where that idea came from, to be honest. It’s not biblical, at all. We could say it goes back to my childhood, where I thought EVERYONE had to listen to MY Mom, just like I did, so I became the enforcer. I’m not using that as an excuse for my behavior, by the way. Just maybe it’s something in my personality that I have to be aware of, to fight it, and give it over in submission to God.
God was convicting me, showing me that there is a difference between holding a fellow believer accountable and loving the unbeliever. Whoa…what a concept. Not to judge at all, but the only group of people to which accountability can be expressed, is between believer to believer. Not believer to unbeliever.
Can we just say that this moment, it clicked in my head, and was possibly the hugest DUH moment, as well as the hugest humbling moment. Oh, I so had this love/judging thing wrong.
More verses kept coming…
7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. 8 The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
I John 4:16-19
16 We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. 17 By this, love is perfected with us, so that we may have confidence in the day of judgment; because as He is, so also are we in this world. 18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love. 19 We love, because He first loved us.
34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. 35 By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”
Love is from God.
God is love.
Abide in God and abide in love.
We love, because He loved us.
All will know me by my love.
Love. Not judgment.
Love. Not fear.
Love. Not condemnation.
So, how DO I show love? How do I give love and not hate, fear or judgment?
Perhaps the most well known verses on love, which happens to be the greatest commandment given to us believers, is 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8.
4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.8 Love never fails
No where in there does it say to judge, to finger point, to bring condemnation upon others.
Galatians 5: 22-23 is also known well, but apparently, hadn’t taken hold in my heart, until now.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
Again, nothing in there Peggy about judging, condemnation, etc.
So, again I asked myself, how do I show love?
- Be kind
- Have self-control
- Be of peaceable spirit
- Be gentle
- Do not be arrogant
- Rejoices in truth
- Hopes all things
- Takes joy
- Does not fail
There where more listed, however I chose those ones to focus on myself, because they are the areas I feel I need to change the most.
Please…I hope you’ve heard my heart. While I’m still not perfect, I am seeking His Word more and more, instead of my own ugly selfish thoughts. I’m going to mess up. I’m going to hurt others in some way.
But my actions and judging attitude towards the homosexual lifestyle was wrong. It is not my place to give that out, only to give love.
What I’ve forgotten is this…that we all have our sins. We all have our short comings. We, none of us, are perfect. God does not place certain sins in a higher category than others*, we do. So while I had thought homosexuality was SO much bigger than my lies, they aren’t.
*I do believe, however that there is one sin that IS the highest in God’s eyes, that is, to place anything or anyone before Him.
I have asked a few friends for forgiveness, because of past behavior, words etc. They have blessed me with forgiveness, and I don’t take that lightly.
I’ve poured over scripture, asked God questions, to reveal to me what I needed to know. To change my heart. To correct me.
I’ve prayed over this for a few weeks now.
I’ve even asked a friend to help me understand how to show love.